It’s over and it’s time to move on out. The operative word is ‘move’. Moving out doesn’t have to be all that bad as long as you do it the right way. In fact, the following tips will help you organize a more painless move despite the emotional pain you must be feeling. Before you get on the phone with a moving company, here are some tips to make your transition easier.
1. Plan Your Move According to the Reason for the Split
MUTUAL BREAKUP: This is where each of you feels that that should be the end of your life together and your relationship may finish on relatively good terms. Coordinate the pending move with your partner to avoid further conflicts that would complicate the matter at hand. Next, plan the division of your mutual belongings and decide who gets what. This is essential to avoid over-packing. It goes without saying, but this is definitely the best case scenario when planning a relocation after a breakup.
SWIFT BREAK: If time has become a crucial factor for you, then you’ll be better off performing a clean break. In this separation case, just opt for hiring professional movers who will come quickly and effectively. Get the timing right – for example, when your partner won’t be home would be the best time to get your items out to avoid arguments. A swift break can be a result of a few things and the reasoning could decide the amount of anxiety you feel. If it’s due to an affair, then the pain will be greater as you’re packing up your things and clearing out your closet. However, it may also be due to you landing a new job in a different country where your partner refuses to move to. In this case, it may feel bittersweet that you’re embarking on the best career move ever while ending a romantic relationship.
COVERT MOVE: If you’re breaking up with a person who you know will cause trouble during the move, you may choose to move out in secret. In other words, do it little by little, a few boxes at a time. By taking this approach, you can already be moved to the new place before your partner realizes what’s going on. As discussed above, pack when you are home alone so you can focus without complications.
2. Be Smart and Strategic – Take Only What You Need
As a rule of thumb, you will be entitled to divide evenly the things that you purchased together. If your partner wishes to keep an item that you bought together, then you should get compensated, and vice versa. Of course, in case of monetary compensation, it’s never the original cost that gets divided but rather the current market cost after the age and wear and tear of that item have been factored in. But more importantly, you may wish to leave behind all objects that will trigger memories and evoke complicated emotions after the move. In some cases, it may be better for your mental equilibrium to take just a handful of valuable items and start with a blank canvas in the new home.
3. Call in Some Favors!
It’s imperative that you establish a support system to count on. If time allows, call up your pals and ask them to help you pack up your things. Having your close friends around and being able to talk with them in person about your feelings and emotions will help you move on. Additionally, some of them may have gone through similar breakups. Try to resist the urge to hide away and be alone and let your friends and family lend their support. Trust us; you’ll thank us later!
Good luck with your move and check back with us for other articles on all things moving.