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Divorce is the dreaded word that no one considers at the start of a marriage; when the wedding glow is still fresh and the honeymoon bliss radiates off your skin. Unfortunately divorce does happen and is a fact of life for many people. However commonplace, this does not make it any easier to handle moving on after a divorce. These are some strategies that will help you deal with the stress and emotional repercussions of divorce.
Yes divorce represents the end of a marriage, but it also represents the beginning of something new that only you can define. Starting fresh by getting rid of your old furniture can be a great way to start your new life without anything to keep you focusing on the past. Having a yard sale is a great way to start putting the past behind you and preparing for the life ahead. The money you make from the yard sale can be used to purchase new household items that represent your personal style and individuality. As humans, we have a way of making emotional associations and deep connections with our belongings. Shedding some of those things may help you move on from your past and focus on building a happy future.
After you have moved, create new rituals for yourself. Maybe your previous marriage kept you from doing something you’ve always wanted to try. This is the best time to try new activities. Focusing on a healthy recreational activity such as walking, arts and crafts, writing or taking dance lessons will keep your mind occupied on something positive and constructive. This will make you feel good about yourself and your situation.
As much as divorce may hurt, you have to take the bitter with the sweet in order to gain an optimistic outlook on life and regain the strength necessary to let go of the hurt, fear, sadness and all other undesirable emotions that you may be dealing with. If possible, do something therapeutic to deal with the emotional baggage. Talking to a therapist can facilitate the healing processing. Keeping a journal and logging your thoughts can also help.
There are varying opinions on the matter, but it is best to remain single for sometime after a divorce. Divorce is an emotionally charged circumstance and taking time to heal is necessary so that you do not carry the thoughts, emotions and judgments of your past into a new relationship. Starting a new relationship too soon can result in you trying to make up for what you feel was lacking in your previous marriage. Healing takes time and cannot be rushed. However painful the healing process may be it is important to remember that it is a process. You owe it to yourself to be patient in the matter.
Spending time with loved ones, family and close friends is very therapeutic. When you don’t want to think about your divorce and just want to have fun, do so. When you want to cry, do so. Be honest with yourself and your emotions and before long you will notice that you’ve come a lot further than you once were.